Moving Pictures

I read an interview today. It was an interview with a very intelligent man named Aaron Weiss. He is the lyricist and singer for a band I love very much, mewithoutYou. In this interview he was talking about one of his songs, "East Ender Wives" (and that seriously came close to being the title of this post, but then I figured it would be total plagiarism) and he made a very good point that I would like to further explicate. Okay, these sentences are really choppy and are not moving along the post whatsoever - I swear I will start putting meaning into these sentences now. Okay. He said that people tend to hold one idea of a person in their mind and keep that instead of letting that person grow and develop.

That is a really brilliant thought.

People simply interact with their one picture of that person, where that person is growing and developing every second of everyday. Every new interaction or stimulation is changing that person. We believe and accept that we ourselves change all the time, so why do we not accept the same for others? We want to hold on to that one idea of a person, whether it be good, bad, or just the only idea you have of that person. We talk to that idea, expecting the same reactions to come. We don't like letting other people change. I should really stop saying we now. I don't like it. I do it, I am very guilty of it. I am in a relationship right now, and communication is obviously vital. But how can we truly interact if I am holding one idea of her in my brain versus understanding that she changes everyday and expect that from her. I should rejoice knowing that she will be different every day, because that means she is developing as a person. I also hope she knows that I change too. But I have no clue if she is anywhere as guilty as I am at this picture thing. I think I need to not put myself on auto-pilot so much in conversation. When I finally take myself off, I've not heard a word anyone has said and I've said a few things I don't believe. I hate that part of myself very much. But if I allow myself to experience every interaction, then I should start seeing that beautiful picture in everyone morphing. I pray this part of my character improves, and soon.

I hope you have a wonderful day, and that maybe this post has made one person think about something in their life. Thank you so much for reading this, and God bless you.